Give Yourself a Second Chance

Give Yourself a Second Chance

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Are you living the life you were meant to live? Or have outside influences changed the real you into someone who is unfulfilled, unhappy, stressed, overweight, depressed or just plain unhappy.

You can give yourself a second chance. Regardless of what’s happened in the past you can get back to what I like to call essence.

Who is the real you?

Close your eyes and imagine for a minute that there is a parallel universe and you have a parallel “you” who is exactly the same age as you are now. Only this “you” has had everything in their lives nurture them. Perfect parents, perfect schooling, perfect friends, perfect partner everything perfect, nothing standing in the way of letting you be the person you are entitled to be.

This you is standing in front of you under a spotlight, in your imagination step into that spotlight and into the real you. Have a good look around, notice how it feels and what the difference is. Really live that real new you and then decide whether you want to stay in that frame. Live your life to the full, we can choose how outside influences affect us.

Its not just your physiology but your mind set, make up your mind to be the person who looks back on their life knowing that you’ve lived the life you were born to.

A good hypnotherapist will take you through this process and lead you further to understand what your life can be like. If only you give yourself a second chance

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Anger Management Techniques

Anger Management

Stress at work, stress management techniques, stress reduction and relief

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Employers should provide a stress-free work environment, recognise where stress is becoming a problem for staff, and take action to reduce stress.

Stress in the workplace reduces productivity, increases management pressures, and makes people ill in many ways, evidence of which is still increasing. Workplace stress affects the performance of the brain, including functions of work performance; memory, concentration, and learning. In the UK over 13 million working days are lost every year because of stress. Stress is believed to trigger 70% of visits to doctors, and 85% of serious illnesses (UK HSE stress statistics).

Stress at work also provides a serious risk of litigation for all employers and organisations, carrying significant liabilities for damages, bad publicity and loss of reputation. Dealing with stress-related claims also consumes vast amounts of management time. So, there are clearly strong economic and financial reasons for organisations to manage and reduce stress at work, aside from the obvious humanitarian and ethical considerations. If you are suffering from stress yourself the stress management guidelines here are just as relevant.

Quick stress reduction techniques

If you are stressed, do one or all of these things now, in whatever order that takes your fancy.

Easy Stress Reduction Technique Number 1

Humour is one of the greatest devices for reducing stress.

It gets your brain thinking and working in a different way.

Most people will feel quite different, and notice a change in 'mindset' after doing this.

Easy Stress Reduction Technique Number 2

Go for a short quick really brisk walk outside.

Yes, actually leave the building.

Change your environment.

Breathe in some fresh air and smell the atmosphere...

Trees, rain, flowers, traffic fumes - doesn't matter - stimulate your senses with new things.

On your way out keep saying to yourself out loud (and to anyone else you see, in that daft way people say "Elvis has left the building.."):

"(your name) is leaving the building.. "

And when you are outside and free say:

"(your name) has left the building.. "

You can extend the exercise by going to a park and jogging a little.

Or do a few star-jumps - something energetic to get your body moving and relaxing.

Or stroke a dog, or pick up some litter, or kick a kid's football.

You can of course use other mantras or chants, depending on what you want to do and how far you want to get away from the stress causes, for example:

"(your name) is doing star-jumps/picking up litter/looking for a small non-threatening dog.." or

"(your name) is leaving/has left the industrial park/district/city/company/country.." etc, etc.

Of course this is daft, but the daftness reduces the stress by removing you from the stress in mind and body.

Doing something daft and physical - and reinforcing it with some daft chanting - opens up the world again.

Easy Stress Reduction Technique Tip Number 3

Go get a big cup or a bottle of water.

Here's why...

Most of us fail to drink enough water - that's water - not tea, coffee, coke, 'sports' drinks, Red Bull or fruit juice...

All of your organs, including your brain, are strongly dependent on water to function properly. It's how we are built.

If you starve your body of water you will function below your best - and you will get stressed. Physically and mentally.

Offices and workplaces commonly have a very dry atmosphere due to air conditioning, etc., which increases people's susceptibility to de-hydration.

This is why you must keep your body properly hydrated by regularly drinking water (most people need 4-8 glasses of water a day).

You will drink more water if you keep some on your desk at all times - it's human nature to drink it if it's there - so go get some now.

When you drink water you need to pee. This gives you a bit of a break and a bit of exercise now and then, which also reduces stress.

When you pee you can see if your body is properly hydrated (your pee will be clear or near clear - if it's yellow you are not taking enough water).

This will also prompt some amusing discussion and chuckling with your colleagues ("Nature calls - I'm off to the bog again...") which is also good for reducing stress.

You do not need to buy expensive mineral water. Tap water is fine.

If you do not like the taste of tap water it's probably because of the chlorine (aquarium fish don't like it either), however the chlorine dissipates quite naturally after a few hours - even through a plastic bottle - so keep some ordinary tap water in the fridge for 2-3 hours and try it then.

If you want to be really exotic add a slice of lemon or lime. Kiwi and sharon fruit are nice too...

So now you are fully watered and guffawing and exercised up to the max.

How to Be Happier

Some Tips on How To Be Happier

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Research has shown that we are born with a set point for happiness. That means you have an inbuilt level of happiness determined by your genes.  So even if we win the lottery our happiness levels will raise for a short time but then eventually go back down to the original level. Sorry to say but more money doesn’t in the long term make you happier.

The good news is that we can change this set point. Plus or minus 10% is attributed to your surroundings and the people around you, over which many of us have little or no control unless we choose to.

The remaining percentage is in our control and can be changed as much as 40% by integrating some small changes.

1. Be grateful

Having a grateful attitude has proven to make significant positive changes in brain and levels of happiness. So at the end of the day just think of 5 small things that you can be grateful for even things as small as seeing a child smile.

 

2. Close Relationships

Sorry to say this but if you have negative people around you they will drag you down, cultivate positive relationships. I know that we can’t choose our families but we can certainly choose our friends.

 

3. Find some meaning in your life

Unfulfilled in your life? Try to remember what you really enjoyed as a child and look for ways to include some of this in your life

 

4. Good partners

Yes it’s true a good marriage based on mutual respect, trust and nurturing will raise your happiness level

 

5. Forgiveness

Yes I know its hard but not holding onto past grievances and forgiving free up happiness.

 

6. Being optimistic

If you hear yourself talking negatively STOP and change the wording. How we talk to ourselves has massive affect on levels of happiness.

 

 

Kimberley Tylor is a qualified counsellor, life coach and hypnotherapist and NLP trainer helping you to overcome obstacles to your happiness and live a fulfilled life after all its not a dress rehearsal!

 

Other Resources

http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/Default.aspx

 

Whats The Difference Between Hypnosis & Counselling?

What’s The Difference? Counselling,   Psychotherapy & Hypnosis?

Whats the difference between counselling, psychotherapy & hypnosis

Counselling and Psychotherapy are known as the talking cures and have been used for centuries using psychological theories and skills to clients’ personal problems. Their main difference being the theories that are used during the sessions.

Hypnosis has also been used for centuries and is a state which occurs naturally in many situations, have you ever driven home and thought "I don't remember driving here” when you got there?  Well, whilst driving you were in a natural hypnotic state or trance, you were probably thinking about something else whilst your subconscious or unconscious took over the driving. This can happen when reading, watching TV and in many other situations. Its all down to the how the brain processes more than one task.

This natural state can be combined with counselling or psychotherapy to make the process more effective. It’s then called hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy works on a subconscious or unconscious level so although our conscious or thinking part of the brain by going over the past may be able to figure out why we do things,e.g. I’m sad because ....or I have a phobia or anxiety because...this doesn’t always alleviate the problem. It’s usually more important to alleviate the problem and put in its place new more positive replacement behaviours; this is where hypnosis plays a part in hypnotherapy because when used by a skilled counsellor or psychotherapist it effectively teaches the subconscious much more flexible ways of responding to perceived situations.

It is important therefore if choosing a hypnotherapist that you also make sure that they have trained in either a counselling or psychological therapy as well.

REF: According to the BRITISH MEDICAL JOURNAL ”Hypnosis is the induction of a deeply relaxed state, with increased suggestibility and suspension of critical faculties. Once in this state, sometimes called a hypnotic trance, patients are given therapeutic suggestions to encourage changes in behaviour or relief of symptoms.”

 ABC of complementary medicine: Hypnosis and relaxation therapies
Vickers and Zollman British Medical Journal.1999; 319: 1346-1349