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How to have the life you deserve and have always wanted
How to have the life you deserve and have always wanted
The truth is that most of us don’t know what we want in our lives. We usually drift through life stating all the things that we don’t want, such as I don’t want to do this job anymore, I don’t want to be overweight, I don’t want to be with a man who treats me unkindly, I don’t want to be alone.
The problem is that what we focus on is very often what we get and our minds are not able to distinguish between the positive and the negative so that very often we end up with the very things that we don’t want.
The most successful people in life are those that are very clear about what they want, are very clear about how to get there and follow through with action to move forward to achieving that.
Without a clear idea of what you want to be, do and have you are likely to be drifting. This often means you have little control over your life and even fewer choices, which can lead to frustration, anxiety, fear and stress.
GOOD NEWS - This does not have to be so.
Anyone can take control of their future, get clear on what they want and improve the quality of their life forever.
Follow this step by step guide and see if it works for you:
Step 1 – Gather
Write down on a piece of paper everything you want to be, do and have. Keep going until you have exhausted all your ideas.
Step 2 – Review
Go through your list and ask yourself what is this going to do for me or give to me? Cross off the list anything you cannot give an answer to. Make sure you are very clear about why you want this.
Step 3 – Evaluate
Now look at your remaining list of items and see how they fit in with the important things in your life. For example, if your young family are very important to you then you may find that setting yourself a target of spending the next 5 years surfing the coasts of Australia is unrealistic.
Spend some time closely scruitinising each target and ask yourself some questions such as:
Will this improve my life, make me happier, healthier, richer? What benefits are there for me and the other important people in my life?
Step 4 – Take Action
Now take each of the items on your list and create a `To Do` list. Ask yourself what you are willing to do to move closer to this item. Break each target down into smaller steps so that you don’t get overwhelmed and work out what the `to do` list is for each step. Keep breaking it down until you have a manageable list of actions you can do, one way to do this is to ask keep on asking yourself How will I do that? The steps don’t need to be so easy that they are boring or don’t stretch you and also don’t make them too hard so that you would not achieve them.
Think about daily activities, weekly activities and monthly activities. The idea is that you can achieve the overall aim somewhere between 3-6 months.
Don’t forget to keep your list of `to do` handy so that you can cross them off your list as you achieve them.
Step 5 – Set specific dates for the action
Add some realistic time scales for doing/completing the action. This step is really important as it will enable you to keep yourself on track for achieving the life you want. It will help to motivate and encourage you to move forwards.
Give yourself a hearty slap on the back for completing this exercise.
Now spend some time thinking of how you will feel once you have achieved your aims. What will you see and hear? What will your friends and other people be saying to you?
Create some rewards for yourself as you achieve each target as these will also help to motivate and encourage you.
Remind yourself every so often of those areas in your life that you are improving so that you can know if you are moving closer to achieving them.
Remember: the extent to which you keep your word with yourself is the extent to which your life works.
This article has been written by Kimberley Stapleton who is dedicated to helping people to live the life they’ve always wanted and that they truly deserve. As a follow up to this article the first ten people to contact Kimberley directly will be offered a free life coaching session on how to create and live the life you’ve always wanted. She can be or please fill in your details below and she will contact you for your free appointment
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Give Yourself a Second Chance
Give Yourself a Second Chance
Are you living the life you were meant to live? Or have outside influences changed the real you into someone who is unfulfilled, unhappy, stressed, overweight, depressed or just plain unhappy.
You can give yourself a second chance. Regardless of what’s happened in the past you can get back to what I like to call essence.
Who is the real you?
Close your eyes and imagine for a minute that there is a parallel universe and you have a parallel “you” who is exactly the same age as you are now. Only this “you” has had everything in their lives nurture them. Perfect parents, perfect schooling, perfect friends, perfect partner everything perfect, nothing standing in the way of letting you be the person you are entitled to be.
This you is standing in front of you under a spotlight, in your imagination step into that spotlight and into the real you. Have a good look around, notice how it feels and what the difference is. Really live that real new you and then decide whether you want to stay in that frame. Live your life to the full, we can choose how outside influences affect us.
Its not just your physiology but your mind set, make up your mind to be the person who looks back on their life knowing that you’ve lived the life you were born to.
A good hypnotherapist will take you through this process and lead you further to understand what your life can be like. If only you give yourself a second chance
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Anger Management Techniques
Anger Management
Stress at work, stress management techniques, stress reduction and relief
Employers should provide a stress-free work environment, recognise where stress is becoming a problem for staff, and take action to reduce stress.
Stress in the workplace reduces productivity, increases management pressures, and makes people ill in many ways, evidence of which is still increasing. Workplace stress affects the performance of the brain, including functions of work performance; memory, concentration, and learning. In the UK over 13 million working days are lost every year because of stress. Stress is believed to trigger 70% of visits to doctors, and 85% of serious illnesses (UK HSE stress statistics).
Stress at work also provides a serious risk of litigation for all employers and organisations, carrying significant liabilities for damages, bad publicity and loss of reputation. Dealing with stress-related claims also consumes vast amounts of management time. So, there are clearly strong economic and financial reasons for organisations to manage and reduce stress at work, aside from the obvious humanitarian and ethical considerations. If you are suffering from stress yourself the stress management guidelines here are just as relevant.
Quick stress reduction techniques
If you are stressed, do one or all of these things now, in whatever order that takes your fancy.
Easy Stress Reduction Technique Number 1
Humour is one of the greatest devices for reducing stress.
It gets your brain thinking and working in a different way.
Most people will feel quite different, and notice a change in 'mindset' after doing this.
Easy Stress Reduction Technique Number 2
Go for a short quick really brisk walk outside.
Yes, actually leave the building.
Change your environment.
Breathe in some fresh air and smell the atmosphere...
Trees, rain, flowers, traffic fumes - doesn't matter - stimulate your senses with new things.
On your way out keep saying to yourself out loud (and to anyone else you see, in that daft way people say "Elvis has left the building.."):
"(your name) is leaving the building.. "
And when you are outside and free say:
"(your name) has left the building.. "
You can extend the exercise by going to a park and jogging a little.
Or do a few star-jumps - something energetic to get your body moving and relaxing.
Or stroke a dog, or pick up some litter, or kick a kid's football.
You can of course use other mantras or chants, depending on what you want to do and how far you want to get away from the stress causes, for example:
"(your name) is doing star-jumps/picking up litter/looking for a small non-threatening dog.." or
"(your name) is leaving/has left the industrial park/district/city/company/country.." etc, etc.
Of course this is daft, but the daftness reduces the stress by removing you from the stress in mind and body.
Doing something daft and physical - and reinforcing it with some daft chanting - opens up the world again.
Easy Stress Reduction Technique Tip Number 3
Go get a big cup or a bottle of water.
Here's why...
Most of us fail to drink enough water - that's water - not tea, coffee, coke, 'sports' drinks, Red Bull or fruit juice...
All of your organs, including your brain, are strongly dependent on water to function properly. It's how we are built.
If you starve your body of water you will function below your best - and you will get stressed. Physically and mentally.
Offices and workplaces commonly have a very dry atmosphere due to air conditioning, etc., which increases people's susceptibility to de-hydration.
This is why you must keep your body properly hydrated by regularly drinking water (most people need 4-8 glasses of water a day).
You will drink more water if you keep some on your desk at all times - it's human nature to drink it if it's there - so go get some now.
When you drink water you need to pee. This gives you a bit of a break and a bit of exercise now and then, which also reduces stress.
When you pee you can see if your body is properly hydrated (your pee will be clear or near clear - if it's yellow you are not taking enough water).
This will also prompt some amusing discussion and chuckling with your colleagues ("Nature calls - I'm off to the bog again...") which is also good for reducing stress.
You do not need to buy expensive mineral water. Tap water is fine.
If you do not like the taste of tap water it's probably because of the chlorine (aquarium fish don't like it either), however the chlorine dissipates quite naturally after a few hours - even through a plastic bottle - so keep some ordinary tap water in the fridge for 2-3 hours and try it then.
If you want to be really exotic add a slice of lemon or lime. Kiwi and sharon fruit are nice too...
So now you are fully watered and guffawing and exercised up to the max.
How to Be Happier
Some Tips on How To Be Happier
Research has shown that we are born with a set point for happiness. That means you have an inbuilt level of happiness determined by your genes. So even if we win the lottery our happiness levels will raise for a short time but then eventually go back down to the original level. Sorry to say but more money doesn’t in the long term make you happier.
The good news is that we can change this set point. Plus or minus 10% is attributed to your surroundings and the people around you, over which many of us have little or no control unless we choose to.
The remaining percentage is in our control and can be changed as much as 40% by integrating some small changes.
1. Be grateful
Having a grateful attitude has proven to make significant positive changes in brain and levels of happiness. So at the end of the day just think of 5 small things that you can be grateful for even things as small as seeing a child smile.
2. Close Relationships
Sorry to say this but if you have negative people around you they will drag you down, cultivate positive relationships. I know that we can’t choose our families but we can certainly choose our friends.
3. Find some meaning in your life
Unfulfilled in your life? Try to remember what you really enjoyed as a child and look for ways to include some of this in your life
4. Good partners
Yes it’s true a good marriage based on mutual respect, trust and nurturing will raise your happiness level
5. Forgiveness
Yes I know its hard but not holding onto past grievances and forgiving free up happiness.
6. Being optimistic
If you hear yourself talking negatively STOP and change the wording. How we talk to ourselves has massive affect on levels of happiness.
Kimberley Tylor is a qualified counsellor, life coach and hypnotherapist and NLP trainer helping you to overcome obstacles to your happiness and live a fulfilled life after all its not a dress rehearsal!
Other Resources
http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/Default.aspx
Whats The Difference Between Hypnosis & Counselling?
What’s The Difference? Counselling, Psychotherapy & Hypnosis?
Counselling and Psychotherapy are known as the talking cures and have been used for centuries using psychological theories and skills to clients’ personal problems. Their main difference being the theories that are used during the sessions.
Hypnosis has also been used for centuries and is a state which occurs naturally in many situations, have you ever driven home and thought "I don't remember driving here” when you got there? Well, whilst driving you were in a natural hypnotic state or trance, you were probably thinking about something else whilst your subconscious or unconscious took over the driving. This can happen when reading, watching TV and in many other situations. Its all down to the how the brain processes more than one task.
This natural state can be combined with counselling or psychotherapy to make the process more effective. It’s then called hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy works on a subconscious or unconscious level so although our conscious or thinking part of the brain by going over the past may be able to figure out why we do things,e.g. I’m sad because ....or I have a phobia or anxiety because...this doesn’t always alleviate the problem. It’s usually more important to alleviate the problem and put in its place new more positive replacement behaviours; this is where hypnosis plays a part in hypnotherapy because when used by a skilled counsellor or psychotherapist it effectively teaches the subconscious much more flexible ways of responding to perceived situations.
It is important therefore if choosing a hypnotherapist that you also make sure that they have trained in either a counselling or psychological therapy as well.
REF: According to the BRITISH MEDICAL JOURNAL ”Hypnosis is the induction of a deeply relaxed state, with increased suggestibility and suspension of critical faculties. Once in this state, sometimes called a hypnotic trance, patients are given therapeutic suggestions to encourage changes in behaviour or relief of symptoms.”
ABC of complementary medicine: Hypnosis and relaxation therapies
Vickers and Zollman British Medical Journal.1999; 319: 1346-1349
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