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Coined the simplest, most effective thing you can do everyday to be happier, "The Five Minute Journal" has been created by combining the proven elements of positive psychology that can make all of the difference in your life. From daily affirmations, to list-prompts that encourage you to reflect and evaluate, this five minute pastime is an inspiring way to start and end your day.
Finding Your Authentic Self 1
Reconnecting with your authentic self gets you back on track to being who you really are. I've put together a few exercises for you to do to help you find as I like to call it "your essence"
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Are you Pushing Your Man Away ??
So you met a man and everything was going great between the two of you. Or so you thought.
Then, quick as lightning, he was out the door.
When it comes to relationships, women and men have unique perspectives. From first date etiquette to when to sleep with their partner, the outlooks are diverse.
However, when a man pulls away from the woman he’s seeing it’s usually for a specific reason.
Here are three HUGE mistakes women make that push men away.
They’re clingy.
If there’s one thing that’ll send any man running it’s a clingy woman. Sure, it’s nice to be affectionate and show him that he’s on your mind, but when you make him your be and end all, he’ll start to feel smothered. When this happens he’ll try to regain his independence by pulling away.
What’s worse is when you make it known that you’re falling for him, too quickly. Since men are looking for fun in the beginning of a relationship, letting him know that you’re already planning your future together will scare him away. Instead of showing your emotions too soon, it’s crucial that you remain calm, cool and collected.
Remember, if a man senses that a woman wants more from him and the relationship than he’s prepared to give, he will pull away.
They’re insecure.
Studies have shown that 97% of women are unhappy with their bodies at least once a day.
However, when it comes to relationships showing your insecurities is never a good idea. Sure, it’s nice to be comfortable enough to talk about your gym routine or the healthy eating kick you’re on with your man, but if you’re asking him “Do these jeans make me look fat” or nagging anytime an attractive woman talks to him, then you’re digging your own relationship grave.
The problem is that once your insecurities start to show there’s no going back. Instead of pushing him away with your self-doubts show him your happy-go-lucky side and he’ll be hooked.
A good tip to follow is to pretend that every date with your man is a first because there’s no way you’d let him see this side of you then. For more ideas on how to boost your self confidence click here and watch this free video presentation from relationship expert Amy North.
They’re unhappy without him.
Just because you’re happy when you’re with him it doesn’t mean that he isn’t catching on to your negativity when he’s not in the room. In fact, if he knows that he’s your sole source of happiness then it’s likely to push him away.
The problem here is this type of situation makes him feel pressured to keep you content, and that’s a huge responsibility for anyone! Instead of relying on him to keep you smiling, make the most of your life. Do the things that you love. When you do, you’ll not only be making yourself happier, but it’ll improve the overall quality of your relationship too.
For a deeper insight on what pushes men away take a moment and watch this free video presentation.
Social Anxiety Tips - 3 Ways To Lower Your Fear
Learning some quick tips and techniques can be the best way to start overcoming your social anxiety. The three main areas to focus on are your thoughts, emotions and behaviors. Attacking your social anxiety from these three areas at the same time will have a compounding effect on the results you get. Focus on the ones you have the most difficulty with now, and then move on to the others.
Your thoughts and how you manage them can have a substantial impact. If you have time, look into cognitive behavioral therapy for a complete set of tools on managing your thoughts. If you just want to try some quick techniques out right now, then keep reading this article. One way to lower your anxious thoughts is to accept them. It sound like a contradiction, but it isn't. Once you fully accept yourself, even down to your anxious thoughts, which are a "flaw," then you'll feel a lot less inferior to others. If you have thoughts or feelings of inadequacy or inferiority often, then it usually just comes down to accepting yourself and then working towards a better future at the same time.
Also try thinking a lot less. Most socially anxious people think way too much, which makes them stuck inside their head. If you can slow down your anxious thoughts by switching your focus to the people around you, then you should be able to think a lot less, which will make you less anxious.
If you have social anxiety, then it's normal to feel lonely, sad and depressed. Unfortunately, these are the exact types of emotions that will drive off potential friendships or relationships. People don't like to be around people who are sad and depressed all the time. Instead, you want to be fun and happy a good deal of the time. How do you do this? Try smiling. The simple act of smiling actually releases chemicals in your brain that start to make you feel more happy automatically If you don't believe me, then try it for yourself. How much different do you feel when you are slouched over and looking bored versus sitting up straight with a huge smile on your face?
The last tip I'll show you is the one which may make the most lasting changes to your level of social anxiety. Here it is: face your fears directly. It may sound like impractical advice if you are very socially anxious. In that case, you need to start with small fears and build your way up. Maybe try to make and hold eye contact outside with three people outside today and then move on to bigger fears.
If you want to learn more ways of coping with social anxiety, then click to check out my blog on curing social anxiety.
Or call me for an initial consultation on 99355901
Overcome Shyness - Two Easy Ways To Get Rid Of Nervousness
In our modern culture, everyone is focused on becoming more social, popular, and liked--since all of these personality traits come with many benefits. Extroverted people generally have more friends, fun and success than introverts. They also tend to suffer from loneliness and depression less. Becoming more outgoing and social is about living life to the fullest, unafraid to express yourself or go after what you want in life. Since being extroverted has so many benefits to it, it makes sense to want to get rid of your shyness.
Getting your conversation skills up to speed is one quick and easy way to start becoming less introverted. In particular, you want to start becoming more impulsive in what you say. While there are some situations, like job interviews, where you want to be very careful about what you say, in most you should focus on talking more often and more spontaneously. This is going to sound bad, but try not to think too much before you speak in informal social situations. If you put too much effort into everything you say, you'll come across as a try-hard. By being spontaneous and just letting the words flow, you become easy-going, which is what people like.
In some situations you can probably already talk to people easily and spontaneously. It could be around your family, your niece or nephew, or talking to a close friend. However, when around people you don't know well or are intimidated of, you aren't able to act the same way. Your shyness gets in the way. A lot of the time, this issue can fix itself through gradual exposure. An intimidating stranger soon become a close friend if you hang around him several times. By spending more time with people you'll start to get the hang of talking to strangers. Believe it or not, how well you make conversation is not a talent you were born with, but a skill set. Just like riding a bicycle, the more you practice this skill set the better you will become and the easier you'll find it to be relaxed around new people
In lowering your levels of nervousness when talking to people, there are many useful techniques to help you relax. Relaxation has the effect of demonstrating to your brain that there is nothing to be afraid of in this situations, which makes your brain's anxiety lessen. You want that: nothing kills feelings of nervousness and anxiety faster than physical relaxation.
Your relaxation routine should be structured in a way that gets you the maximum results in overcoming shyness. It is not an event, it is a process. It is more effective to implement relaxation as a new routine rather than try it out one time incorrectly when you are in the middle of a full-blown anxiety attack. It will be the compounding of accumulated change that yields the most substantial results. Set aside some time every day to practice relaxation. This will let you become relaxed when you are feeling at your most tense and nervous around people.
If you'd like to learn more about overcoming shyness, then click to read my blog on shyness and social anxiety.
How To Get Over Shyness - The One Mistake Most Shy People Make
Do you really want to know how to get rid of shyness? Are you prepared to forget everything you thought you knew about being less shy and replace it with the truth? Then read on.
The one biggest mistake I see shy people making is being controlled by their emotions. Nearly all shy people make this basic mistake.
- If you avoid people who make you feel shy, then you are being controlled by your emotions.
- If you avoid public speaking because it makes you feel anxious, you are being controlled by your emotions.
- If you don't do something just because it makes you feel nervous or afraid, then you are being controlled by your emotions.
I hate to repeat myself, but this is an absolutely essential point. In order to get over your shyness, you have to become less controlled by your emotions. This doesn't mean to suppress your emotions, it simply means to act in spite of them. Mark Twain was the one who said "Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in spite of it."
That is the ability you need to build if you want to overcome your shyness. You have to have the ability to act in spite of feeling a certain emotion. This means that if you feel afraid to do something, you do it anyway. Act in spite of fear.
- If you raise your hand in class even though it makes you nervous, you are acting in spite of fear.
- If you talk to people even though they make you feel shy, then you're no longer being controlled by your emotions.
- If you talk to groups and make public presentations, then you are the one in charge now, not your fear.
Once you start acting in spite of fear, you will become more relaxed and easygoing in situations which used to make you nervous and shy. When you stop avoiding your fears, you allow your mind to desensitize to them. In psychology, this is also called habituation.
This approach is very common for therapists to use on someone with social anxiety. In cognitive-behavioral therapy, the "behavioral" part is acting in spite of fear. Of course, many shy people can't or are not able to simply "face their fears."
This is why changes to your thinking are also a necessary part of getting over shyness. That's the cognitive part of cognitive-behavioral therapy.
If you want to learn proven strategies and techniques for overcoming shyness that go far beyond "face your fears" and "what's the worst that can happen ", then click to check out my blog on how to overcome shyness.
Or call me for an initial consultation on 99355901
Reduce Stress During Pregnancy & Childbirth
Being newly pregnant depicts vibrant health, joyousness and excited expectation.
However without wishing to unduly cause stress this is not often the case. Many pregnant women experience morning sickness, mood swings, anxiety about labour and fear caused by concerns about breast feeding.
Although normal stress has been shown to be healthy, excess stress has been proven by research published in the Lancet Medical Journal to cause problems not only in the mother but also as early as 17 weeks after conception in the unborn child.
Preparation using relaxation, overcoming anxiety, mentally rehearsing childbirth and allaying fears can all help to alleviate this stress.
It has been proven that the brain is unable to differentiate between an imagined even and a real even in terms of emotions.
So using self hypnosis: Imagine if….you could feel relaxed and enjoy your prgnancy
Imagine that …you knew you how to reduce and manage pain
Imagine that…you know you could free yourself from fears or anxiety
Imagine….feeling relaxed and feel calm, no matter what is going on around you
Hypnotherapy and counselling can be used to teach you the above methods and alleviate fears and anxieties.
Further Reading
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/scotland/4593427.stm
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How Neuroplasticity - How To Rewire Your Brain
Change Your Brain Change Your Mind ~ Yes Literally
Each part of the brain is allocated a job and Neuroplasticity, or brain plasticity is a relatively new science which shows that we can train the brain to develop in ways we wish it too by doing something more or even just thinking about it.
Experiments have shown that the neural pathways (or brain maps) built up during thought are just a powerful as those built up during actual activity.
So, if you imagine you can’t do something then your brain will believe that you can’t and you won’t be able to. However, using hypnosis or visualisation new neural pathways can be built up which are more productive for the individual. What messages and therefore messages are you giving you Brian?
REF: The Mind and the Brain: Neuroplasticity and the Power of Mental Force."
