Answering Hypnotherapy's Most Frequent Questions

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What is hypnosis?

The definition of hypnosis is a relaxed, focused state of concentration. To some, the concept of being relaxed and focused at the same time seems an oxymoron, but hypnosis allows you to enter such a state of mind.

t was presumed until recently that it was a sleep-like state, or that the mind was unconscious. Actually, there is a state which the brain enters into. It has been discovered on scans during hypnosis that in this state, the mind is highly receptive to suggestion. It is not an unusual or unpleasant state of mind; most people simply feel relaxed. There is an alteration in brain wave activity, called the alpha state. This is a very pleasant, relaxing state, but during which the mind is alert, responsive, and open to a rich sensory experience.

Is hypnosis dangerous?

In the hands of a properly trained individual, hypnosis is not dangerous. There may be some circumstances which would be undesirable with an untrained hypnotist, but nothing serious could happen. If you are seeking hypnotherapy, always ensure that the practitioner is registered with a professional body with a code of conduct that you can review.

Can hypnosis make me do something against my will?

This is one of the biggest myths surrounding hypnosis. Stage hypnotists choose their subjects carefully so that they will have participants who would be willing to act outrageously. You will never do anything, or accept any suggestion that violates your morals or values. If that was possible, hypnotists could make you rob banks and bring back the money. The hypnotists would be rich and rule the world. Clearly, this is not the case. If you visit a hypnotherapist wanting to seek help with a phobia, and approach your session with an open mind and a willingness for the therapy to work, these is a good chance that your session will have a positive outcome.

Can anybody be hypnotised?

Almost everyone can be hypnotised. There are a few exceptions, however. Some examples are educationally subnormal individuals, people suffering from senility, very young children, hard drug addicts and individuals under the influence of alcohol.

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A Brief History of Hypnosis

Where does hypnosis come from? Discover the roots of hypnosis with this brief history of this fascinating subject.

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Evidence of hypnotic-like phenomena appears in many ancient cultures. The writer of Genesis seems familiar with the anaesthetic power of hypnosis when he reports that God put Adam "into a deep sleep" to take his rib to form Eve. Other ancient records suggest hypnosis was used by the oracle at Delphi and in rites in ancient Egypt (Hughes and Rothovius, 1996). The modern history of hypnosis begins in the late 1700s, when a French physician, Anton Mesmer, revived an interest in hypnosis.

1734-1815 Franz Anton Mesmer was born in Vienna. Mesmer is considered the father of hypnosis. He is remembered for the term mesmerism which described a process of inducing trance through a series of passes he made with his hands and/or magnets over people. He worked with a person’s animal magnetism (psychic and electromagnetic energies). The medical community eventually discredited him despite his considerable success treating a variety of ailments. His successes offended the medical establishment of the time, who arranged for an official French government investigating committee. This committee included Benjamin Franklin, then the American ambassador to France, and Joseph Guillotine, a French physician who introduced a never-fail device for physically separating the mind from the rest of the body.

1795-1860 James Braid, an English physician, originally opposed to mesmerism (as it had become known) who subsequently became interested. He said that cures were not due to animal magnetism however, they were due to suggestion. He developed the eye fixation technique (also known as Braidism) of inducing relaxation and called it hypnosis (after Hypnos, the Greek god of sleep) as he thought the phenomena was a form of sleep. Later, realising his error, he tried to change the name to monoeidism (meaning influence of a single idea)however, the original name stuck. 1825-1893 Jean Marie Charcot a French neurologist,disagreed with the Nancy School of Hypnotism and contended that hypnosis was simply a manifestation of hysteria. There was bitter rivalry between Charcot and the Nancy group (Liebault and Bernheim). He revived Mesmer’s theory of Animal Magnetism and identified the three stages of trance; lethargy, catalepsy and somnambulism.

1845-1947 Pierre Janet was a French neurologist and psychologist who was initially opposed to the use of hypnosis until he discovered its relaxing effects and promotion of healing. Janet was one of the few people who continued to show an interest in hypnosis during the psychoanalytical rage.

1849-1936 Ivan Petrovich Pavlov - Russian psychologist who actually was more focused on the study of the digestive process. He is known primarily for his development of the concept of the conditioned reflex (or Stimulus Response Theory). In his classic experiment, he trained hungry dogs to salivate at the sound of a bell, which was previously associated with the sight of food. He was awarded the Nobel Prize for Physiology in 1904 for his work on digestive secretions. Though he had nothing to do with hypnosis, his Stimulus Response Theory is a cornerstone in linking and anchoring behaviours, particularly in NLP.

1857-1926 Emile Coue, a physician who formulated the Laws of Suggestion. He is also known for encouraging his patients to say to themselves 20-30 times a night before going to sleep; "Everyday in every way, I am getting better and better." He also discovered that delivering positive suggestions when prescribing medication proved to be a more effective cure than prescribing medications alone. He eventually abandoned the concept of hypnosis in favour of just using suggestion, feeling hypnosis and the hypnotic state impaired the efficiency of the suggestion.

Coue’s Laws of Suggestion

The Law of Concentrated Attention

" Whenever attention is concentrated on an idea over and over again, it spontaneously tends to realise itself"

The Law of Reverse Action

"The harder one tries to do something, the less chance one has of success"

The Law of Dominant Effect

"A stronger emotion tends to replace a weaker one"

1856-1939 Sigmund Freud travelled to Nancy and studied with Liebault and Bernheim, and then did additional study with Charcot. Freud did not incorporate hypnosis in his therapeutic work however because he felt he could not hypnotise patients to a sufficient depth, felt that the cures were temporary, and that hynosis stripped patients of their defences. Freud was considered a poor hypnotist given his paternal manner. However, his clients often went into trance and he often, unknowingly, performed non-verbal inductions when he would place his hand on his patient’s head to signify the Doctor dominant, patient submissive roles. Because of his early dismissal of hypnosis in favour of psychoanalysis, hypnosis was almost totally ignored.

1875-1961 Carl Jung, a student and colleague of Freud’s, rejected Freud’s psychoanalytical approach and developed his own interests. He developed the concept of the collective unconscious and archetypes. Though he did not actively use hypnosis, he encouraged his patients to use active imagination to change old memories. He often used the concept of the inner guide, in the healing work. He believed that the inner mind could be accessed through tools like the I Ching and astrology. He was rejected by the conservative medical community as a mystic. However, many of his ideas and theories are actively embraced by healers to this day.

1932-1974 Milton Erickson, a psychologist and psychiatrist pioneered the art of indirect suggestion in hypnosis. He is considered to be the father of modern hypnosis. His methods bypassed the conscious mind through the use of both verbal and nonverbal pacing techniques including metaphor, confusion, and many others. He was a colourful character and has immensely influenced the practice of contemporary hypnotherapy, and its official acceptance by the AMA. His work, combined with the work of Satir and Perls, was the basis for Bandler and Grinder’s Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).

5 Steps to Successful Self-Hypnosis

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1. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

In this step you need to consider what you want vs. what you don’t want and you need to be able to distinguish between the form and the essence.

Instead on focusing on what you don’t want, it’ important to focus on WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE to experience instead, because your subconscious mind says “YES” to whatever you focus upon. If you don’t want illness focus on perfect health, if you don’t want lack, focus on abundance, if you don’t want to experience stress, focus on experiencing peace, etc.

Sometimes people focus on the “form” (the physical thing instead on the “essence”

(the feeling they would like to experience). If you desire to create or attract a specific thing into your life, ask yourself what feeling do you believe this thing would give you.

By focusing on the “essence” of what you want, you expand your options.

You may find that there are many other ways to experience that desired feeling even now, and by experiencing that feeling now, you further open yourself to attract the thing you desire.

Many times we chase certain things, only to discover that they didn’t give us the feeling we expected to get by having them. And even if the thing you originally had it mind does indeed bring you the desired feeling, this process may bring you further insight into many different ways to enrich your life, to open yourself to many different opportunities that will allow you to experience even more of that desired feeling.

2. CLAIM IT AS YOURS

Once you know what you want, imagine and FEEL that you already have it. Engage as many of your senses as you can and while in a trance state (in a state of hypnosis) vividly imagine yourself as if you are already enjoying the desired state, thing, circumstances. You may also re-live your life, in your mind, imagining that you have always had this resource, quality, thing you’d like to experience.

The whole point of the “depth” of hypnosis is to allow you to put your conscious mind and the awareness of the outer world aside, long enough that you are able to fully experience your desired experience as REAL for you NOW.

It is good to remember that your subconscious mind does not distinguish between what is outside of you - what you may interpret as “real” - and what you experience only in the realm of your mind. The subconscious mind concludes that something is REAL, if it FEELS REAL to YOU … NOW.

3. CLEAR THE OBSTACLES

Successful self-hypnosis is very much alike planting seeds. You decide what you would like to grow, you plant the seeds by imagining and feeling that you already have the desired outcome. You don’t have to concern yourself with how is the plant going to grow – it is endowed with intelligence to fulfill its purpose. What you do need to do is pull out the weeds if you notice any.

When you plant seeds of your outcome in your subconscious mind, your doubts, fears, anxieties, conflicting beliefs etc. are weeds you have to uproot. If you believe that it is impossible for you to reach your goal, but you just want to try it, forget about it – it’s not going to work.

If the goal seems to overwhelming, cut it down into smaller, achievable goals – goals you believe are attainable for you now. It doesn’t matter what anyone else has accomplished. The only thing that matters is what you believe is possible for you.

Other people’s accomplishments may inspire you – but whether you’d be able to accomplish the same, or less, or more, depends only on what you believe to be possible for you, and on the action you're willing to take.

Sometimes people look for “proofs” and assurance outside of themselves, asking other people for their opinions as to whether something is possible or not, yet this only tells their subconscious minds that they are still filled with doubt – they don’t really believe that they can experience the results they desire, so they usually don’t.

The best place to look for “proofs” when using your subconscious mind is in your own experiences – conducting your own experiments.

There is a way to get and create absolutely anything you may ever want to create through the power of your mind. However to overcome your own limitations you either have to have limitless faith, or even better, to do some research and gain understanding why YOU CAN be or have whatever it is you set your heart upon.

This also brings me to the POWER OF DECISION. If you have ever DECIDED to experience something and if you can recall how that feels, you may become aware that at such times your mind was fully focused on your GOAL and even though you might have been aware of possible obstacles on the road, they have not prevented you in reaching your outcome. When you truly DECIDE that you want something, you “cut yourself off” any other possibility and you COMMIT yourself to having the experience you desire.

You may be already familiar with a poem by Goethe:

Until one is committed

there is hesitancy,

the chance to draw back,

always ineffectiveness.

Concerning all acts of initiative

there is one elementary truth

the ignorance of which kills

countless ideas and endless plans:

That the moment one definitely commits oneself,

then providence moves, too.

All sorts of things occur to help one

that would never otherwise have occurred.

A whole stream of events issues from the decision

raising in one’s favor all manner of

unforeseen incidents and meetings and

material assistance which no man

could have dreamed would come his way.

Whatever you can do or

dream you can, begin it!

Boldness has genius, power

and magic in it.

4. LET GO AND TRUST

This is probably the hardest step for most people – and it may take some practice to totally and completely trust in the wisdom and power of your mind, universe, God, your Higher Self (pick the term you prefer) to be able to bring into your experience what you asked for.

You may notice that sometimes when you think about something and then you completely forget about it, not even giving it a second thought whether it’s going to pass or not – the thing you thought about, just happens. That’s because you have spontaneously let go – by forgetting about it, your subconscious mind was able to take over and create that experience in your life.

Other times you may feel that you want or need something really badly, so badly as a matter of fact, that you can’t let it go – and as much as you want it – you are not allowing it to manifest for you.

When something is really important for you to have and you have no idea where what you need is going to come from, trusting may feel as if you were walking on a tight-rope. With practice, it does get much easier.

Practicing gratitude – expressing gratitude for what you need and/or desire as if you have already received it will help you to get your mind off the worry, and keep it focused on your goal.

I have written before about gratitude, but I’d like to repeat that gratitude will dramatically cut the time it takes to get what you desire, and it will dissolve a lot of obstacles toward getting the results you’d like to create using self-hypnosis.

You can thank your subconscious mind, your unconscious mind, God, universe – or whatever you like to refer to the power and intelligence within you and all around you that is able and knows how to bring into manifestation every one of your heart’s desires.

5. RECOGNIZE WHEN YOU GET WHAT YOU ASKED FOR

Sometimes what you ask for may come into your life in a slightly different form than what you envisioned. It is important to notice and acknowledge that what you asked for has in some form manifested for you.

Sometimes what you ask for may be even better than what you asked for (vividly imagined in self-hypnosis).

Sometimes what you ask for may be a far cry from what you wanted. It may be just a signal that what you asked for is on its way. Now is not the time to give up, but to keep on thanking that what you desire or even something better is on its way.

You may also want to re-examine your beliefs, doubts, worries, insecurities, feelings that you don’t quite deserve what you asked for, that it would be too good for you, or perhaps that after all, you don’t really want what you asked for.

Remember that your outer-world experiences only reflect what’s in your mind, so if you don’t like what you’re experiencing, all you need to do is change your mind about it. If you expect only the best in life, and keep on thanking your mind and the universe (God) for giving you the best, in joyful expectation of these experiences – your outer-world experiences will reflect this.

Acknowledge that everything that happens in your life is forever moving you toward the realization of your goals.

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How to stop self-sabotaging yourself

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How To STOP Self Sabotage

Tips To Help You Stop Self Sabotage …

Did you eat (almost) the whole chocolate cake when your goal was to lose fifteen pounds?

On your last visit to the mall, did you buy three pairs of shoes and a jacket that you didn’t have the need for?

You know you are good at your work and expecting a promotion soon. But as the time for the advancement comes near, did you unintentionally start missing deadlines and showed up late for work?

We can relate to these and many other examples in our daily life that we act out as contrary to our self-interest. This is called self-sabotage and whether we do it consciously or subconsciously – it can be destructing and a significant obstacle in our way of achieving goals.

What causes self-sabotage?

There may be many reasons to indulge in self-sabotage. Usually our poor self-esteem prevents us from doing the things that are essential for our prosperity. For example, someone was verbally abused as a child. They were called ‘stupid’ and never recognized for the intelligence they possessed. Growing up the individual will believe their lack of intelligence and fail to treat themselves as a person capable of doing tasks of intellectual nature.

We humans also fear getting out of our comfort zone. We assure ourselves that we are fine the way we are.  Our internal voice keeps whispering ‘soothing’ comments in our ears that make us believe that one more piece of cake will not hurt or the extra TV time is well deserved after a tiring day at work.

However, excessive self-sabotage can create several negative effects in our life including impact our health, depression, financial issues, social anxiety, loss of job, and even personal conflictions.

How to overcome self-sabotage

To stop the act of self-sabotage, we must recognize when we are getting in our own way. Most of the time we are aware of the situation. For example

+, we procrastinate important tasks when we know they are immediately required. Or sometimes we sabotage our best interest out of impulse such as make purchases when they are not required or binge watch episodes of Friends when we have exams the next day.

Regardless of the reason, self-sabotage should be stopped and here are some tips to help you:

1.       Accept responsibility

Always remember that you are liable for the outcome from your choices and actions. Stop playing the victim card through your emotional or mental health and get in control of your life.

2.       Identify the self-destructing patterns

What do you do to stop yourself from achieving the important tasks? Do you press the snooze button when the alarm rings or do you obsess over unimportant things when you should be concentrating on the project in hand?

Once you identify the behaviors, try to stop your instincts and avoid the self-destructing patterns.

3.       Believe in positivity

Negative thoughts usually make way for self-sabotaging behavior. Don’t allow your inner saboteur to get the best of you and believe in the positive mantra. Hypnosis is also helpful in this matter where the positive thoughts are penetrated deep into your subconscious mind – enabling you to pursue your goals more effectively and successfully.

4.       Stay away from those who doubt your worth

Instead of being with people who put you down, enlist a group of friends/family that encourage you to do more.

Remember your self-worth

Last but not the least – always remember your self-worth. The higher you will find your self-worth to be, the more confident you will have with your work and surroundings – enabling you to achieve more than you imagined.

How Hypnosis can help

How to Stop Self Sabotage

Using hypnosis to update your unconscious mind to stop undermining your own best interests

Are you tired of feeling like things you try never quite work out?

Do you feel like you sometimes get in your own way when it comes to life fulfillment?

You know where you want to get to in life, at least where you think you want to go. But there's that other part of you that brings doubt and ultimately causes you to back out of following your goals because of fear.

This can happen in all areas of life, including:

  • Fitness

  • Relationships

  • Work

  • Dieting.

And fear is a key factor in these situations. Because self sabotage happens when we are afraid of a part of our goal. This causes unconscious conflict, which manifests itself as actions and feelings that work against that goal.

By the end, we aren't where we want to be, but at least we were right in our low estimations of ourselves.

It's a vicious cycle.

The dangers of self preservation

But of course, the vindication we feel when we fail to attain a goal, but expected it, is detrimental to our healthy progression in life.

And the joy of true success in life far outweighs that of self preservation.

The trick is to make the achievement of the goal feel more compelling than the fear of not succeeding. And this is where hypnosis comes in.

How hypnosis can help stop self sabotage

Self sabotage, as we've seen, is an unconscious attempt at self protection. It is usually caused by old unconscious patterns that no longer work for us, and need to be updated.

Hypnosis is the art of communicating with the unconscious mind, and in this case we thank it for its effort to protect you and then gently inform it that times have changed and it can move on.

The Stop Self Sabotage hypnosis session will help you move along your own path to fulfillment.

As you relax and listen repeatedly to your session, you'll notice that you:

  • Stop feeling anxious about achieving goals.

  • Stop worrying so much about what might go wrong

  • Can better plan how to achieve your goals

  • Are better able to move forward with these plans

  • Begin to progress further in life.

    You can download a hypnosis recording here to get started on your journey to change or if you’d like to book an in person session in Xemxija , Malta please either email: kim@Hypnotherapy-Malta.com or call 99355901

 

Why it’s important to find out your life purpose and live your passion here’s some inspiration?

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As we grow from a child to a young teen, we learn, explore, and have fun. In our twenties, our life purpose changes and we put our prime focus on choosing a niche for our academic and professional accomplishments.

With time, we hit our adulthood and our life’s perspective concentrates on our families, their wellbeing, social status, and career goals.

However, in this journey of life, most of us ignore or disregard the life purpose we are born with. Most of us confuse the life purpose with money and being successful in career. But no – the worldly purposes change with age and time while the life purpose is unchanging.

“Life without a purpose is like a body without a soul” – Unknown

There are many reasons why it is important to seek our life’s purpose – some are philosophical reasons while some are spiritual and there are other reasons that influence our everyday quality of life.

Let’s take a look at some of the top reasons the ‘why’ matters:

1. It gives your life focus

When you are aware of your life’s purpose, it becomes easier to focus on what matters the most. Going in one direction keeps you away from distractions and makes you feel more fulfilled.

2. It keeps you passionate

Those who know their life are unstoppable. They are passionate about their goals and work hard until they manage to reach those goals.

3. Make a contribution to the world

We are all born with natural talents. And if your life purpose aligns with your inner talents, you may be capable of leaving a legacy behind. Something that not only you are proud of but can also be beneficial for the society we live in.

4. improvement in health

When you are working around the clock for worldly purposes, you usually feel tired and unsatisfied. This may impact your health and wellbeing. However, when you are working with a passion, you are more energized and productive.

5. It sparks up your life

A purpose-driven life is more fun. When you know your goals and are passionate towards achieving them, you enjoy every moment of it.

Don’t spend your life in regrets – look for your life purpose now

Let’s face it! The clock is ticking on all of us and if we don’t find our life purpose soon – we might have to live with several regrets and that is not what life is all about.

From Wellness to Wellbeing: A Holistic Approach to Enhancing Your Personal and Corporate Health

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Once upon a time, there was a significant line separating professional and personal life. After work hours, many of us were able to take the extra time out for our families, hobbies, and most importantly – caring for ourselves.

However, times have changed and many of us have become so busy that we usually sacrifice one part of our life for another.

In fact, the straining work, expenses of the family, and just the overwhelming nature of life have made it impossible for us to concentrate on the factor that holds the most importance – Our Wellness and Wellbeing.

“Wellness encompasses a healthy body, a sound mind, and a tranquil spirit. Enjoy the journey as you

strive for wellness” – Laurette Gagnon Beaulieu

Wellness is not simply about being free from illness. It is also more than just eating right and exercising daily. It is not even a goal that you achieve but rather a lifestyle that one adopts for the overall balance of physical, mental, and spiritual wellbeing.

Why is personal and professional wellness important?

Wellness is important because it affects many areas of our lives. It is a critical aspect that ensures quality and a happy life. It is the way of living and reflects in the way one addresses the challenges thrown towards them.

In life, there are eight pillars that determine wellness. These include:

· Physical – that includes exercise, good sleep, and proper hygiene

· Nutritional – a balanced diet

· Emotional – understanding your feelings and coping effectively with emotions

· Social – connecting with others for positive interaction

· Spiritual – devoting regular time through meditation and prayers

· Intellectual – taking an active part in learning

· Financial–to ensure financial expenses are managed efficiently

· Environmental – the correlation between the individual and his personal surroundings

Each of these pillars plays an equal part in ensuring optimal wellness and those who wish to reach the state of wellbeing should understand how to maintain and optimize each of these parts.

Optimal health and wellness can be yours!

If given a chance, would you choose better health? Increased energy? Decreased stress? Or improvements in a relationship?

With a holistic wellness approach, you can achieve all your personal and professional goals with minimal resistance.

So what are you waiting for? A new life full of joy and good health awaits. Simply start by strengthening each of the above-mentioned pillars of holistic wellness and remember…balance is the key!

Once upon a time, there was a significant line separating professional and personal life. After work hours, many of us were able to take the extra time out for our families, hobbies, and most importantly – caring for ourselves.

However, times have changed and many of us have become so busy that we usually sacrifice one part of our life for another.

In fact, the straining work, expenses of the family, and just the overwhelming nature of life have made it impossible for us to concentrate on the factor that holds the most importance – Our Wellness and Wellbeing.

“Wellness encompasses a healthy body, a sound mind, and a tranquil spirit. Enjoy the journey as you

strive for wellness” – Laurette Gagnon Beaulieu

Wellness is not simply about being free from illness. It is also more than just eating right and exercising daily. It is not even a goal that you achieve but rather a lifestyle that one adopts for the overall balance of physical, mental, and spiritual wellbeing.

Why is personal and professional wellness important?

Wellness is important because it affects many areas of our lives. It is a critical aspect that ensures quality and a happy life. It is the way of living and reflects in the way one addresses the challenges thrown towards them.

In life, there are eight pillars that determine wellness. These include:

· Physical – that includes exercise, good sleep, and proper hygiene

· Nutritional – a balanced diet

· Emotional – understanding your feelings and coping effectively with emotions

· Social – connecting with others for positive interaction

· Spiritual – devoting regular time through meditation and prayers

· Intellectual – taking an active part in learning

· Financial–to ensure financial expenses are managed efficiently

· Environmental – the correlation between the individual and his personal surroundings

Each of these pillars plays an equal part in ensuring optimal wellness and those who wish to reach the state of wellbeing should understand how to maintain and optimize each of these parts.

Optimal health and wellness can be yours!

If given a chance, would you choose better health? Increased energy? Decreased stress? Or improvements in a relationship?

With a holistic wellness approach, you can achieve all your personal and professional goals with minimal resistance.

So what are you waiting for? A new life full of joy and good health awaits. Simply start by strengthening each of the above-mentioned pillars of holistic wellness and remember…balance is the key!

When should I start hypnobirthing?

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When should I start hypnobirthing? The ideal time to start classes is between 25 weeks and 29 weeks of pregnancy, If you have anxiety or stress related to your pregnancy or birth then it is probably a good idea to attend a session regarding this right at the start of your pregnacy so that you can relax and enjoy being pregnant and anyone may well benefit from classes right up to the end of their pregnancy.

Please see here for ways we can help you enjoy your pregnancy and have a peaceful, natural, relaxing birth or contact me for further details 99355901 - info@hypnotherapy-malta.com

Relationship issues

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Relationships are a very meaningful part of our lives, and can bring us a great deal of happiness and fulfilment. Strong connections with our loved ones, friends and work colleagues allow us to be at our healthiest and most productive, and for many these relationships offer an important source of advice, guidance, love and support.

However, fulfilling and supportive relationships don’t come automatically, and they require good social skills and a great deal of time and energy to stay strong and go the distance. Sometimes meaningful connections break down, which can leave people feeling lonely, disappointed and unsure of what to do. In some cases our relationships may not be fulfilling our expectations, which can impact our happiness and life satisfaction. On the other hand, some people may crave close friendships and/or romantic relationships but find them very difficult to come by.

Whatever the relationship issue, there is help available in the form of relationship counselling. In this setting a counsellor will work with couples or individuals to explore their needs and what they want from their relationships, while offering support and advice to help them get their relationship(s) back on track. 

5 Reasons Successful People Need Therapy

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Therapy isn't for losers. Successful people need support too.

As a psychotherapist, I see many high achievers in my therapy office. And it's clear that success doesn't provide immunity against depressionemotional issues, relationship troubles, parenting problems, or anxiety disorders.

While high achievers are susceptible to many of the same mental health problems other people experience, they also face some unique challenges of their own. Here are the five most common reasons highly successful people seek therapy:

1. Impostor Syndrome

Although impostor syndrome isn't an official diagnosis that appears in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the persistent feeling of not being good enough can be just as problematic as a diagnosable condition.

People with impostor syndrome feel unworthy of their success. They attribute their success to luck--rather than inherent ability--and they constantly feel like frauds.

People with impostor syndrome often present to a therapist's office for a specific problem, like anxiety or depression. They usually don't want to acknowledge their underlying feelings of inadequacy, even to a therapist.

Impostor syndrome often emerges after a few therapy sessions. Successful treatment brings the person's thinking in-line with the facts about her achievement so she can feel more authentic.

2. The Underlying Reason Behind Their Drive

Successful people are driven. They usually work harder, persevere longer, and bounce back from adversity faster than others.

While some high achievers may be natural go-getters, the drive for achievement sometimes stems from hurt and pain. Someone who grew up feeling as though she's not good enough may find success temporarily helps her feel better. Or someone who felt rejected by his parents may hope high levels of achievement will finally gain him the parental approval he desperately seeks.

Success may temporarily mask heartache, but anguish lurks just beneath the surface. Therapy can help people discover how to heal their past wounds so they can be even more effective as they move forward.

3. Fear of Losing Everything

The more someone has, the more he has to lose. And the fear of losing everything causes some successful people to experience chronic anxiety and fear.

They worry they're just one decision away from ruining everything. Or they fear they'll somehow squander the opportunities they have been given.

Therapy can help successful people learn to give themselves permission to relax and recharge their batteries. And sometimes, therapists help high achievers recognize that their net worth isn't the same as their self-worth. Treatment may also help successful people find healthy ways to cope with anxiety and self-doubt.

4. It's Lonely At the Top

High achievement may ostracize successful people from family members and friends. Additionally, successful people are often placed in high-level management positions where it may be inappropriate to befriend subordinates, leaving them with fewer opportunities to socialize.

Therapists often help successful people address feelings of alienation. Therapy may also encourage finding ways to replace professional networking with casual opportunities to form genuine friendships.

5. Guilt That Stems from Success

While there's a common notion that successful people feel entitled, many of them also feel guilty. In fact, the first thing many high achievers say when entering my therapy office is, "I probably shouldn't be here. There are people with a lot bigger problems who need your time more than I do."

They may also question whether they deserve a new car, or they may feel guilty about going away on a vacation. This can be especially true for individuals who have experienced poverty in the past.

Therapy often focuses on helping people change their self-limiting beliefs so they can live their best lives. Treatment may involve helping high achievers recognize how their success affords them an opportunity to have a bigger impact on the world.

Be Willing to Ask for Help

Talk therapy can address a multitude of problems that may be holding you back. And quite often, just a handful of therapy sessions may be all you need to feel better.

If there's something holding you back or keeping you stuck, contact a therapist or talk to your doctor. Building mental strength could help you reach your greatest potential, even when you're already wildly successful.

Rapidly Remove Unconscious Patterns Sabotaging Your Success

Do You Keep Repeating The Same Patterns?

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Do You Want To:

  • End self-sabotage, procrastination, and many other negative habits

  • Get out of overwhelm, burnout, and become unstuck forever

  • Turn every relationship conflict into greater strength and empowerment

  • Reclaim all the energy you’ve been wasting on this inner battle

  • Unlock your natural wealth and abundance that the shadows are blocking

  • Gain the clarity and confidence of purpose being obscured by the shadows

  • Activate the self-worth to ask for what you need, have strong boundaries, and go for what you really want without shame, blame, or apology!

  • Wake up and walk through your day loving ALL OF YOU (can you imagine the power of that? It’s a game-changer!)

The path to true success and fulfillment is to focus on what you want, ignore what you don’t, push through whatever fear and resistance you feel, and compensate for whatever shortcomings you have…until you reach the goal…right?

WRONG

That’s the path to overwhelm, burnout, and ultimately breakdown. But it’s what most people, at least in the Western World, have been conditioned to believe and do.

And that's why most people either don't have the life of their dreams, don't achieve their most important goals, or even when they do get many of the things they thought they needed, they're still unhappy, sometimes miserably so..

So What's wrong with this picture?

Removing self sabotaging patterns

There's a Flaw in How We Think We Grow

You see, like nature, we are not meant to just grow ‘up’ but to also grow ‘down’. We’ve been taught to just reach for the stars, the sky’s the limit, just keep looking up… But if a tree grew that way, it would fail to thrive, if it could even grow at all, and fall over at the first wind. Forget about surviving a storm or drought. No way.

Fortunately, nature doesn’t grow that way. It grows down, digging its roots into the dark soil as deeply as it hopes to lift its branches toward the sun. The deeper the roots, the higher the shoots, and the richer the fruits! Nature also understands that the dark, dank soil is not something to avoid. Even though the soil is made from everything that has died before, nature doesn’t turn it into a tomb, but a womb!

Well, the same principle holds true for your growth. The only way to grow to your full potential, bear rich fruits, and be strong enough to withstand all the weather of life, is to learn how to dig your roots deeply into the soil of your soul and turn that dirt into the dynamic power locked inside it.

Here’s a little known secret about real, lasting growth and success…

The darkness is just the light in potential, just as the dirt is life in potential. Learn how to embrace all of your seeming darkness and you will be unstoppable!

The SHADOW  is the process for doing that

It is a time-tested, proven system for taking all those parts of yourself, your life experience, and everything and everyone that causes you conflict – and turning it into a storehouse of wisdom, genius, talent, and abundance!

I’ve seen people who had tried everything else to heal or succeed begin to work with their shadows and experience rapid, even miraculous breakthroughs and turnarounds – not in months or years but in weeks, days, even minutes.

Ending the War Within

The key is in the power of ending our internal conflict. When we have unconscious shadows, we are ALWAYS in battle with ourselves – they are sucking our energy, burning us out, making us angry, frustrated, depressed…

These unconscious shadows show up as self-sabotage, causing us to procrastinate, holding us back from taking bold actions, and often breaking out as negative, destructive behavior – making us act like the people we hate most!

Then, because we don’t realize what’s happening, we try harder to hold these parts of us down, fix them, heal them, or just get rid of them. But it doesn’t work. IT WILL NEVER WORK.

They are a part of us. They always will be. The problem isn’t that we have them, it’s that we don’t understand them. We judge them, hate them, fear them, are ashamed of them…and that shows up as most of our troubles.

But when we learn how to listen to them, love them, and integrate their power and wisdom again, they stop being our enemies and become our greatest allies – unlocking many of the powers, talents, and opportunities we had been striving for.

I’m telling you, it can be truly miraculous when these shadows are embraced finally.

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I show you how to do it, helping you to:

End self-sabotage, procrastination, and many other negative habits

Get out of overwhelm, burnout, and become unstuck forever

Turn every relationship conflict into greater strength and empowerment

Reclaim all the energy you’ve been wasting on this inner battle

Unlock your natural wealth and abundance that the shadows are blocking

Gain the clarity and confidence of purpose being obscured by the shadows

Activate the self-worth to ask for what you need, have strong boundaries, and go for what you really want without shame, blame, or apology!

Wake up and walk through your day loving ALL OF YOU (can you imagine the power of that? It’s a game-changer!)

And so much more… (Really, I’m not just saying that!)

7 Weeks 1 on 1 In Person Course including  : Personalised sessions

Special Price: 245 Euros Or 7 Payments of 50 Euros

Please email : kim@hypnotherapy-malta.com for further details or an appointment

or call 99355901